When properly nurtured, family relationships can add joy to your life and be some of the most fulfilling ones you'll ever have. Unfortunately, there are times when it's easy to take out stress and frustration on family members because you know they will always be there, even when you know they should get your best. A strong, stable, happy family sets the tone for your children to have the same in their future. Here are a few steps to building happier family relationships.
Boundaries are vital in all family relationships, and when your kids are younger, you have to set those boundaries for them. As children age and move into their teenage years, they may have more input about the family rules and expectations. Take the time to listen to your kids and make important decisions together. This will encourage them to have more interest about the family's concerns.
Many parents make the mistake of always putting the kids first, when it should actually be the opposite. If you put your spouse first and you are both happy in your marriage, that happiness will trickle down to the kids, and they will definitely feel it. When you treat your spouse with love and respect and as the most important person in your life, it sets a good example for your kids as they grow into adulthood.
As your kids get older, they are less likely to talk to you, and more likely to talk with their friends about problems they are having. You can encourage them to come to you first by asking them questions about their day and letting them know that you are always there to listen. Also, good communication with your spouse is vital to the marriage relationship, when it's not, well, just ask any family violence lawyer.
There are always times when you will have to discipline your kids or argue your point with your spouse. Show your kids they have a safe place to express their feelings and emotions as you show understanding for their concerns. Let your spouse know why it's important that you feel the way you do about an issue. If you fill your home with encouragement, understanding, warmth, and affection you are well on your way to a happier family.